Duets: Orchestrating Co-Parenting with Music Industry Wisdom

Co-parenting can be one of the most confusing, unstructured relationships out there. For me, it feels like trying to make a collab album with someone from a completely different genre. How we going to make Grammy-level hits when we’re not on the same bpm or key. You got to get in the booth with your partner and figure it out! If Lincoln Park and Jay-Z can make a hit album (I’m dating myself), then anything is possible. That’s coparenting in a nutshell—you have to team up with someone you aren’t always on the same page with, but when you get it right, you reach the highest, most rewarding level of achievement, a happy, whole kiddo.

I just became a “co-parent” a few months ago, and although the moniker doesn’t quite resonate with how I see my parenting relationship, as I think it belittles the beauty of it all, I’ve already discovered that it is a unique artform.  It’s a weird balance of teamwork, individuality, and experimentation that's centered around a conglomerate of abstract communication styles.  I’ve truly never been more desperately in touch with my creative energy, because it’s about raising a child together, even when your relationship isn’t grounded in tradition. 

It’s just like the music industry, not all partnerships look the same. Some co-parents are like an unmarried Jay and Bey level—graceful and unified. Others might be more Future and Drake—used to make hits together, but are they beefing now? Not sure, but somehow we know the culture will bring them back together. Wherever you land on that spectrum, just know, it’s really weird and scary, but that’s normal! You’re literally inventing your family style – freestyling. 

When I first started navigating this journey, I kept asking myself: How do I even explain this to someone else when I’m still figuring it out myself? Is the relationship healthy or toxic? Are there still feelings in the mix, or have we moved into neutral territory? Even in the best situations, let’s not pretend the journey is always harmonious—there are times we’re really out of sync. Like completely out of tune!

But here’s what I’ve learned: co-parenting when done right, isn’t just about “making it work.” And if anyone’s trying to tell you that coparenting is weird or unnatural, let me stop you right there. Families are evolving a lot in 2024. Some of the most successful people we admire operate in co-parenting relationships. Look at Wiz Khalifa and Amber Rose – amazing! What matters is showing up. For me, that’s the rule I live by—our daughter deserves stability, love, and a united front. 

Co-parenting isn’t weird—it’s real life, and when you lean into it with intention, it’s a kind of parenting that can be truly powerful. 

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